You can never rise above the opinion you have of yourself.
FROM IMPERFECT TO I’M PERFECT
despite and because of all my flaws
ABOUT ME
As a child I experienced trauma through neglect and abuse, even though I had parents and 2 older sisters who loved me. When we talk about trauma, we usually think of something terrible happening to a person but that is not the only trauma there is. Children don’t get traumatised because they get hurt, children get traumatised because they are alone with the hurt. When the pain is there and there is no one to share it with, in combination with having very limited resources to deal with it being a small child, you disconnect.
I disconnected from my feelings, from myself.
Growing up my mother suffered from breast cancer, twice, and died of bone cancer a week before my 21st birthday after having suffered and fought for 18 long years. After finishing my gap year in New Zealand (where I was born), some unfinished courses at university and a very serious sports injury, I started a restaurant at the age of 23 having a belief that working with my hands would keep me out of my head where the pain and sadness resided.
Some more life changing events happened, as they tend to do, and I moved to the other side of the country in pursuit of love, which I now know, I knew nothing about. With an idealistic idea of changing people’s behaviour, I went back to school to become a teacher, trying to teach my students about self-love which I hadn’t yet acquired for myself.
In a misguided attempt to alleviate the suffering I experienced, I kept looking for validation outside of myself, all the while experiencing more tragic life events like unwanted childlessness, surgical interventions, break-ups and losing my father by euthanasia.
TRANSFORMATION – an ongoing process
It wasn’t until RTT helped me transform the root cause of my traumas that I’m honestly able to say that I am a truly happy person.
By changing my limiting belief of powerlessness into ‘I am not to be abused’, the belief ‘I have no say’ into ‘I decide!’ and last but not least by being reconnected to my feelings, my trauma no longer drives me. I no longer suffer from chronic unhappines even though the imprint of trauma remains within me and can still present me with unexpected challenges. I continue to work on them. The process is ongoing.
What has changed, however, is how I relate to my trauma and to myself. As a result of this shift, I now live with an inner world that is filled with gratitude and feels infinitely richer, kinder and more meaningful than anything I could ever have imagined. Now, I feel I have come full circle. I still have a desire to nurture people, but on a much deeper level!
my mission
My name is Justine and I am an educator at heart. There are two different Latin roots of the English word “education.” They are “educare,” which means to train or to mold, and “educere,” meaning to lead out.
My focus, both as a secondary school teacher and a hypnotherapist, has shifted from the first to the latter; my mission in life is to lead out what is within so you can release the brakes on your limitless potential.
Healing is not the absence of problems, it is the presence of joy.
TOPICS WE CAN WORK ON
Anxiety, rumination, stress, fears, phobias, guilt, shame, doubt, decision paralysis, that inner critic, procrastination, hopelessness, despondency, despair, grief, nerves, fear of failure, perfectionism, medically unexplained physical issues, destructive habits, the symptoms of childhood trauma etc. As a side-effect you will obtain more self-confidence, self-esteem and emotional freedom.
I can also help you achieve positive results in, e.g., public speaking, exams (like your driving test or any other kind of test), job-interviews and sports.
I can help you prepare for or deal with difficult times like surgery, illness, chronic pain, divorce, losing a loved one.
And last but not least, having been a teacher for more than 20 years I obviously love working with children, tweens and especially teens.
In my experience hypnotherapy is the fastest way to reach lasting results.
Why work with me
The common thread of all successful therapies is the connection between the client and the therapist. So please be picky in deciding wether I am the right fit for you. You should feel safe, cared for and comfortable with me
When you do, this can open up the way to courage. The courage needed to look at, expose, reveal, disclose, divulge, take the lid off, blow things wide open, let the cat out of the bag, spill the beans, blow the gaff, open up that can of worms. These are just a few of the words and idioms people have used to describe their preconception and fear of what will happen during hypnotherapy.
However, I have experienced and witnessed quite the opposite; looking back at the cat and the beans and the worms from a different perspective isn’t scary at all, in fact it is the most self-compassionate thing a person can do. The monsters morph into marshmellows. They were never true in the first place and it’s incredibly liberating when that realization finally dawns.
self-compassion
For me, the most important skill in life is self-compassion, which means a way of relating to ourselves kindly when we fail. Why? Because I learnt through experience, in my own life and the life of my friends, family and clients, that it affects virtually everything. I believe the relationship we have with ourselves profoundly shapes our daily experiences. If we do not accept ourselves for who we are and feel that we can only be “enough” if we look and act a certain way and reach certain standards, we are bound to a life of suffering.
You can never be loved more than you love yourself and that starts with accepting yourself, knowing that who you are is absolutely beautiful and perfect, regardless of what anyone else ever said. If you need any help truly embracing this concept I look forward to meeting you in person very soon.
teamwork
I have experienced a few awe-inspiring moments in my life where the cooperation of two or more people produced a combined effect greater than the sum of their separate effects, i.e., synergy. That is why I am looking for psychologists, coaches, GP’s, dentists and everyone else in the healing business who thinks I might be of temporary use to their clients.
Hypnotherapy can be very beneficial when used in conjunction with other types of therapies and traditional medicine as there is always, to some degree, a psychological aspect associated with any physical condition or dis-ease. It is especially useful in reducing stress, anxiety and fear.
It is important that clients have been carefully screened and that traditional remedies were considered first-hand. Hypnotherapy has, however, proven beneficial in cases where traditional treatments have failed. Usually, hypnosis is to be an adjunct therapy to enhance the effectiveness of other treatments.
Collaboration divides the task and multiplies the success.